[MD] until death do us part

[Louise Pryor]

My take on this comes from the ones I see really suffering in the whole
equation - the kids.

The only people who had no choice in the decision to marry in the first
place, no choice in being born into the situation, no choice in the hell
their lives become when the two most important people in their lives decide
to toss it all away.

This counts, also, to kids born without the benefit of two committed,
present parents.

The confusion, pain and consequences are not mitigated by the increase in
statistics. Every kid knows someone who's parents are divorced. Every kid
dreads that it will be theirs next.

Marriage is for the kids (if there are no kids involved, then seek the
almighty Romance to your hearts content). Marriage is worth keeping; being
committed, all the hard work, and time invested in another person is worth
it. The benefits are immeasurable! My character is more deeply developed by
learning to deal with this other in my life, by learning to cooperate, to
communicate, to compromise, to put someone else above myself (this, of
course, is reciprocal). The kids benefit from seeing these principle put
into action, seeing conflict resolved, and they go into their own lives
equipped with better tools for living higher quality lives. Parenting is
easier to do together, grand-parenting is easier to do together.

I have been married to John for going on 22 years. He is my first, and only,
lover. He knows my body - I can't imagine trying to teach someone else. I'm
a difficult person to please! He knows all the stories, and we can exchange
a look and just know, because we were both there, because we went through it
together, because we got through it together.

Some might consider it boring to already know everything, and want to seek
the excitement of the new - but with a little imagination that can be done
right where you are!

Someone said you only enter a contract with a person you don't trust - and
that seems sad to me. Do coyotes "enter a contract" when they mate for life?
My parents mated for life, I knew I would, too. I am monogamous, as is John,
and perhaps not everyone is, but in my opinion that is more a result of a
deteriorating (de-volving) society, than anything inborn.

And it will result in collapse. Kids are hurting themselves - cutters,
multiple piercing's in sensitive places, sex and drugs at a very early age -
these are the desperate please of young people who have no trust because the
two people who should have cared about them, more than they cared about
themselves, betrayed them.

Lu
coming out of hiding for the important issues...