[MD] Drama

[MarshaV]

I only like my own drama, but you're pretty cool.


At 10:11 PM 7/6/2007, you wrote:
>Hello,
>
>
>      At work stress swallows people into negativity.
>This is a daily, nightly event.  It is definitely the
>moment that brings out the best or the worst in a
>person.  I try to laugh.  It does help relieve the
>pressure, not just for myself, but for others around
>me.  Work is not only political, but intellectual.
>The correct decisions are to made, and a pat on the
>back is, well, from those higher up in the hierarchy -
>doesn't happen 99% of the time.  I sometimes think,
>with this non-encouragement, am I to except a 'nice
>job', 'thanks', or 'your doing this well'.  It's
>usually can you correct this, or we can't have people
>doing that.  Even hearing the negativity about others
>has me watch my back.  You don't know what to say at
>times.  One wrong word, and many won't help and care
>about you.  I know I do things at times, that others
>wonder 'what the heck was he thinking'.  I try to
>remember this.  It helps.  For everybody does with
>what they know.  I've heard some are just plain lazy
>and don't try.  Maybe - well, it's probably most
>likely true.  I still address problems that staff may
>be having.  I still address problems that residents
>are having.  I do encourage and say thank you and
>please.  Yet, so many people talk about each other -
>spies lurk.  This whole situation demands allegiance,
>and if you don't show respect to certain people, well,
>don't except it back.  Trust, that's my issue.  I
>don't trust certain people.  It's funny.  I trust the
>residents more than the staff at times, except for a
>certain few.  At least with the residents, when they
>make a mistake or try to lie, it can be dealt with,
>discussed openly and then we move on.  With staff and
>the politics -what I like to call drama, has moved
>into the sector of the staff and administration.  Why
>bother with it?  Why think about it?  Who cares what
>others think?  I mean we make mistakes.  Why does it
>bother me if others talk behind my back?  I know I say
>things at times, I try not to, but I do.  It is
>negative and towards certain staff.  Everybody grovels
>and moans about each other.  Where does this get us?
>I try to come back to the focus at what we are doing
>at work, which is the residents.  Then staff do this
>or don't do this, and it goes counter to what would
>help everything run better for the residents - so the
>staff become more the problem than the residents.  The
>staff aren't helping the residents, but then again we
>each have our own way.  I guess I should talk with
>each staff and support them.  If things don't go well,
>then I should be here for them in support and guidance
>and not have the attitude, "I told you so!"  That
>doesn't help I guess.  Even if I think certain staff
>are doing something to help residents or aren't being
>on the same page and are going out on their own, well,
>if problems arise, then it is their doing.  I don't
>leave them out to dry, but help them.  I don't say, "I
>told you so." (which I haven't, but I'm saying I
>should trust them more).  I can help them out, not
>demand I certain way.  It's tough.  I found a way that
>works and helps provide consistent structure for the
>residents so the residents don't rule the show.  Yet,
>there are other ways.  There are other honest efforts,
>even if they seem so silly and counter to what I've
>experienced.  If I have to clean up somebodies mess,
>then so be it.  I'm sure I do things that don't help.
>I know I lean on the discipline side.  I'm not much of
>a talker with the residents especially if they are
>doing things wrong that I've or others have repeatedly
>called them out on.  I'm straightforward in my
>approach.  It makes some laugh and others think I'm
>mean at times.  Sometimes I'm seen as too complex, I
>make things complicated.  I say to these people, your
>probably right, and yes, I have said that to people,
>staff and residents.  When the shit hits the fan,
>thus, a crisis is amongst us at work, I know exactly
>what needs to be done.  I'm clear minded and go right
>for the solution.  I know I'm strict.  When it comes
>to talking with the residents, I can laugh and joke
>around with them.  I really don't like to leave my
>assistant supervisor out of the picture.  I try to let
>her in on everything.  It helps me.  I have somebody
>to talk to about what's happening.  When she wonders
>if I tell her everything, I'm very plain-spoken with
>her and I let her know - yes, I'm telling you
>everything and if I'm not, I think what is it I
>haven't let her know and I tell her.  It helps with my
>sanity.  She's somebody I know that understands what I
>go through.  She's been through a lot with residents
>wanting to kill her and get rid of her.  I've been
>there.  I know exactly what she's talking about.  This
>helps her.  She knows I've been there, and it's
>difficult to rely this experience to others that
>haven't been through what we've been through.  There
>are others on campus, on different units that
>understand too.  But it's not about this.  It's not
>about what I know and what others know and may or may
>not do measured by my experience.  I don't need to
>compare.  They've got their own way.  I should be more
>supportive and encouraging.  Isn't that what I'm
>looking for from others in the first place?
>
>
>night,
>SA
>
>
>
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