[MD] John's Recommendation for Bo

[John Carl]

Hey folks, just got back from dropping a daughter off at Healdsburg and
doing the whole 4th of July stuff.  Lotsa driving with time to think.  I
like that.

Main thing on my mind was Bo's troubles here, and how to fix 'em.  Even as
each of us is a complex system of patterns and relationships, so too is this
discuss an entity of systems, patterns and relationships.  As Royce says,
every individual is a community and every community is an individual entity
bigger than the sum of its parts.

So I wanna consider our community here, and try and wrestle a solution to
the conflict between Bo and Horse.  I suggested a "time out" and I still
think that's a good idea for Bo, but I need to make it a little more
understood and grown-up sounding than the kindergarden banter we throw back
and forth.

In ancient monastaries, brothers would take a vow of silence, for a certain
period.  Sometimes at their own instigation, and sometimes at the suggestion
of others in the priesthood, or even the head abbot.  I'd like Bo to
consider my suggestion of a time-out in that regard -  a monastic vow of
silence for a period, rather than an exclusion or a shunning.  There are
others who take his view, let them defend it for a while and Bo observe
"quietly" from the sidelines and resisting the impulse to make his sol point
for a while.


>From my perspective on Bo's stance,  its become rigid and inflexible, he's
got a bad case of "static cling" and he really needs a more dynamic handle
on his own thoughts.  A way of looking and presenting that isn't mired in
his history and persistent efforts.  I think Horse's frustration stems from
wanting to help Bo overcome this stuckness, and is understandable in that
regard,  but imo, a banishment is too harsh and serves neither the community
nor Bo's best interest in the long term.

Everybody can use a little vacation, now and then.  A-muse-ment is bad, but
re-creation is good.