[MD] Re Arlo

[Khoo Hock Aun]

Horse and all,

As with everything else similar to this, we have to do away with the notion
that just because the other guy did it, we can and will do it too.

The impulse to respond in kind is too strong perhaps, but everything begins
with you. If each of us do not exercise the restraint to attack each other
personally, the negative patterns replicate with each post and there will be
no end to the melee.

I suppose we can begin by all agreeing that "because the other guy did it"
is not a justification for ad hominen attacks and the like. Cut out the rot
at the root.

Best regards
Khoo Hock Aun


On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 1:35 AM, John Carl <ridgecoyote at gmail.com> wrote:

> Horse throws out a plea:
>
> Ok folks - how's about everyone that contributes to this list voicing their
> > opinion as to how we can make this into a forum whereby we discuss the
> MoQ
> > in a civilised and constructive way.
> >
> > Your thoughts and suggestions please
>
>
> I'd say the only way to do it, is to do it.  People tend to pick up on the
> flavor of those around them, and when there is polite discourse, people
> respond politely.
>
> I read an interesting article in Wired magazine a few months back, about
> the
> evolution of social networking and discussion lists like this one.  The
> normal path for an online discussion, is that it grows in popularity till
> it
> becomes so big that nobody matters anymore.  The community devolves into a
> collective.  People feel lost in the crowd, and so everybody stops posting
> and the list melts away.
>
> Reading back over the years, I think one reason MD has resisted this
> pattern
> (over-popularity) is that newbies feel intimidated by the rancor.  And this
> is, to an extent, a good thing.  There are certain amongst us, who act as
> "white corpuscles" to attack foreign infections with strong anti-bodies of
> "you're stupid and shouldn't be here".
>
> That's not really my style, but I can see the usefulness to MD as a whole.
> The problem, of course, comes in when vituperative rhetoric dominates the
> majority of discussion.  That's no fun.
>
> But if we make it too easy, then it'll just be platitudinous back slappin'
> all day long.
>
> I like to just let it evolve as it does, and move in ways that seem good at
> the time, and if that doesn't work, well, we'll try something else.
>
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