[MD] The Intellectual Level of Quality, according to Mark

[Louise Pryor]

On Fri, Feb 26, 2010 at 8:27 PM, Mary <marysonthego at gmail.com> wrote:

> Thanks to all who were brave enough to comment on my post.  That is
> something people don't understand about the tragedy of others.  They really
> want to talk about it.  The next time a co-worker or someone else you know
> has a tragic experience, remember that they would really like you to ask
> them about it.  Our society tells us to distract them or talk about
> anything
> but that, but our society is wrong.
>

Lu says:

This has been true in my experience, also. People don't want to go there,
though. I stopped talking about my youngest daughter to any but the closest
people to me, because the death of a child is just simply something that
most people don't want to think about.


> Men are predators and women are prey animals.
>

I don't see it this way. Maybe it's the way we were raised, or differing
life experiences, but I am NOT prey. I have never been preyed upon, I am not
afraid. I had a kind, soft spoken, but strong father, who protected his
children. I have a kind, outspoken husband, who would never hurt me, or prey
on me.

Why not say: Some men are predators?

Men are also preyed upon by other men, and occasionally by women, too. More
along the lines of women looking for money, but still...


> Gav talks about living a free, unencumbered life without a home.  I can
> only
> dream about such freedom.  No woman would ever do that.  Men can get away
> with it, but we women would just end up as somebody's prostitute or rape
> victim if we tried.


There are many women who have ventured out alone, (such as Jane Goodall) who
didn't end up in any of the scenarios you described.

But a free, unencumbered life is not what we, as women want, in general.
Biologically, we give birth, which means we want a home, security, and
someone to take care of us in that very vulnerable state we are in when
carrying a child.


> My son comes home from school telling me stories about girls getting into
> fights now days.  I am disturbed by this.
>

For the one year that my oldest daughter attended public high school, I
noticed this to be true. Some of the girls there were crass, loud, violent,
and dressed very provocatively (I see it as sexual harassment against the
boys, the way they dress).

I would love to strike out on my own into the unknown and have dynamic
> experiences every day, but I am a prey animal.  It would be suicide.
>

I have known women who seem to be prey. I have always wondered, is it just a
fluke, that I have never been a victim, and some women seem to be repeatedly
victimized? Or is it something that is set up in a person - beginning in
childhood, caused by bad parenting, lack of nurturing, abuse, whatever it
might be, but it becomes part of the psyche, and leads to repeated
incidents?

My main point being, that yours is A reality, but it is not the only
reality, it is not my reality. My theory being, that I can help prevent this
being my daughters reality, by giving them a healthy launching pad, the
right tools, and a sense of their own power.

Lu