[MF] Is the pinnacle of human experience...
Kevin Perez
juan825diego at yahoo.com
Wed Jan 18 19:11:29 PST 2006
On personal relationships as a measure of quality I refer to a short story
documented in the prologue and epilogue of a small book I first read in 1989;
In the Name of Jesus: Reflections on Christian Leadership by Henri Nouwen.
Henri had been ministering to the staff and residents of a community for mentally
handicapped people when he was asked to speak at the fifteenth anniversay of
the Center for Human Development in Washington, DC. He agreed to speak on
Christian leadership in the 21st century.
Henri made the trip to Washington with one of the residents, Bill Van Buren.
Bill had listened to me carefully, and when I invited him to go with me to
Washington, D.C., to speak to priests and ministers, he accepted it as an
invitation to join me in my ministry. "We are doing this together," he said at
different times in the days before we left. "Yes," I kept saying, "we are doing
this together. You and I are going to Washington to proclaim the Gospel." Bill
did not for a moment doubt the truth of this. While I was quite nervous about
what to say and how to say it, Bill showed great confidence in his task. And,
while I was still thinking about Bill's trip with me primarily as something that
would be nice for him, Bill was, from the beginning, convinced that he was
going to help me. I later came to realize that he knew better than I. As we
stepped on board the plane in Toronto, Bill reminded me again, "We are doing
this together, aren't we?" "Yes, Bill," I said, "we sure are." After telling you
what I said in Washington, I will tell you in more detail what happened there
and explain to you why Bill's presence most likely had a more lasting
influence than my words.
Henri goes on to describe the next day's events.
But the time for us to bring our good news together came quickly. After a
delicious buffet dinner in one of the ballrooms decorated with golden statues
and little fountains, Vincent Dwyer introduced me to the audience. At that
moment I still did not know what "doing it together" with Bill would mean. I
opened by saying that I had not come alone, but was very happy that Bill had
come with me. Then I took my handwritten text and began my address. At
that moment, I saw that Bill had left his seat, walked up to the podium, and
planted himself right behind me. It was clear that he had a much more
concrete idea about the meaning of "doing it together" than I. Each time I
finished reading a page, he took it away and put it upside down on a small
table close by. I felt very much at ease with this and started to feel Bill's
presence as a support. But Bill had more in mind. When I began to speak
about the temptation to turn stones into bread as a temptation to be relevant,
he interrupted me and said loudly for everyone to hear, "I have heard that
before!" He had indeed, and he just wanted the priests and ministers who
were listening to know that he knew me quite well and was familiar with my
ideas. For me, however, it felt like a gentle loving reminder that my thoughts
were not as new as I wanted my audience to believe. Bill's intervention created
a new atmosphere in the ballroom: lighter, easier, and more playful.
Somehow Bill had taken away the seriousness of the occasion and had
brought to it some homespun normality. As I continued my presentation, I felt
more and more that we were indeed doing it together. And it felt good.
When I came to the second part and was reading the words, "the question
most asked by the handicapped people with whom I live was, 'Are you home
tonight?' " Bill interrupted me again and said, "That's right, that is what John
Smeltzer always asks." Again there was something disarming about his
remark. Bill knew John Smeltzer very well after living with him in the same
house for quite some years. He simply wanted people to know about his
friend. It was as if he drew the audience toward us, inviting them into the
intimacy of our common life.
After I had finished reading my text and people had shown their appreciation,
Bill said to me, "Henri, can I say something now?" My first reaction was, "Oh,
how am I going to handle this? He might start rambling and create an
embarrassing situation," but then I caught myself in my presumption that he
had nothing of importance to say and said to the audience, "Will you please
sit down. Bill would like to say a few words to you." Bill took the microphone
and said, with all the difficulties he has in speaking, "Last time, when Henri
went to Boston, he took John Smeltzer with him. This time he wanted me to
come with him to Washington, and I am very glad to be here with you. Thank
you very much." That was it, and everyone stood up and gave him warm
applause.
As we walked away from the podium, Bill said to me, "Henri, how did you like
my speech?" "Very much," I answered, "everyone was really happy with what
you said." Bill was delighted. As people gathered for drinks, he felt freer than
ever. He went from person to person, introduced himself and asked how they
liked the evening and told them all sorts of stories about his life in Daybreak.
I did not see him for more than an hour. He was too busy getting to know
everybody.
The next morning at breakfast before we left, Bill walked from table to table
with his cup of coffee in his hands and said good-bye to all those he knew
from the evening before. It was clear to me that he had made many friends
and felt very much at home in these, for him, so unusual surroundings.
Kevin Perez
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