[MD] until death do us part

[MarshaV]

On Jun 8, 2010, at 3:44 PM, John Carl wrote:

> To a certain extent, this question smacks of "should geese fly and mate for
> life?"
> 
> Does marriage have enough goodness to make its survival/improvement worth
>> an effort?
>> 
>> 
> For some animals, pair bonding is instinctive.  For some humans too, and you
> can't change that.  Even biological imperatives are mute in the face of the
> strong instinct to socially herd.  Otherwise there wouldn't really be any
> issues known as "gay marriage".
> 
> What I mean by that is, the biological urge to procreate doesn't have
> anything to do with a couple of men or a couple of women deciding to
> pair-bond, and imo, social recognition by a church or county recorder has
> nothing to do with it either.
> 
> Geese and coyotes are gonna pair up for life.  No matter what the state or
> the church or intellect decide.  Same with humans.  We must decide what our
> true nature tells us, and follow that, regardless of any intellectual
> reasoning.
> 
> Having said that, I want to add that its an interesting discussion and I'm
> glad you brought it up, Marsha.  I was thinking that there's one persistent
> pattern I observe and would like to comment upon:  where a wife divorces her
> husband for committing adultery with a younger woman.  This after about 20
> years of marriage.  That always seemed really stupid to me and playing right
> into the hands of the older male who is freed to pursue younger women while
> the wife gets a punative settlement that leaves them both poorer.
> 
> Far more sensible than divorcing a wayward husband would be to stay married
> to him and make his life a sort of hell, in the ways only a truly
> experienced wife knows how to do.  And men are manipuable enough by women
> through guilt that this wouldn't be difficult to accomplish by an
> experienced wife.
> 
> Of course, many times this isn't an option because the guy just leaves, but
> lotsa times I see it where in a fit of pique, out of a misplaced pride,
> women really screw themselves over to make a point.
> 
> Which is weird, since on the whole I consider them the far more sensible of
> the sexes.  I guess it's just one of those times chicks have a hard time
> bein' rational.  What do you think, Marsha?
> 
> John of the coyote nature



Good Morning John,  

I remember hearing that men who are married live longer, while it is women 
who are single that live longer.  Interesting statistic wouldn't you say?  Since 
it is, more often than not, women who are ending the marriage, it sounds like 
they understand the detrimental affects staying in a unhappy marriage can 
have on their well-being.  From that perspective, women are making very
rational decisions to divorce.  

What do you think about that?



Marsha 
 
 
 
 












 
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