[MD] until death do us part

[John Carl]

Good Morning, Margaret, your quote coincides precisely with a little snippet
I just read, that seems right on the point:

>
> Bruce Lee said in "The Tao of Jeet Kune Do":
> "To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person."
>
> And you sure can learn alot in a relationship whether or not it
> involves the contract of marriage!
>
>
The snippet I read was from the introduction to a book called "On the Bus",
a retrospective of the great bus Further and the Merry Pranksters and about
an episode where a relationship changed the perspective of one person
contemplating individuality vs. community who claimed,  "Neal Cassady
changed my life"

"He was the mellow Neal, just a guy, just like us.  But there was a
mysterious thing there too. I had the feeling that I was involved in a
lesson...

Neal represented a model to me of how far you could take it in an individual
way, in the sense that you weren't going to have a work, you were going to
be the work.  Work in real time, which is a lot like musician's work.

I was oscillating at the time.  I had originally been an art student and was
wavering between one-man-one-work or being involved in something that was
dynamic and ongoing and didn't necessarily stay any one way-- and, also,
something in which you weren't the only contributing factor.

I decided to go with what was dynamic and with what more than one mind was
involved with.

The decision I came to was to be involved in a group thing, namely the
Grateful Dead, and I'm still involved with it."

Jerry Garcia

So back to the original question Marsha had, about MoQ reasons for marriage,
here's one to chew on.  Living by our own thinking is too static.

John the enthusiast of "group things"