[MD] until death do us part

[Margaret Warren]

>I'd definitely fire the cabana boy tho.  To allow one's faithful wife an
indiscretion is one thing, 
>but to encourage it smacks of disrespect for the institution.

haha! so many variations on the 'open marriage' theory...

you can do it - but just don't 'tell' me about it - but if
I hear about it - then I'm going to be hurt/jealous etc.

after a short 3 year marriage - when i was 21..
then I had this long relationship for 14 years..not married,
with someone who never promised monogamy.

I had this great 'theory' at 24: 'who am I to limit anyone elses
experiences on the earth?' Interesting idea and very difficult
to actually LIVE in the context of a relationship. I still sort of
have it - but it's changed a bit - I've added a few caveats about
not having my own experiences compromised. 

Bruce Lee said in "The Tao of Jeet Kune Do": 
"To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person."

And you sure can learn alot in a relationship whether or not it
involves the contract of marriage! 

I always thought it curious that a (let's use a woman/man example...but
could be either)
a woman could love and want for her husband to have ALL of his dreams 
come true - no matter what...EXCEPT that fantasy of his having a playboy
model :-)

it's like I love hearing partners say to each other: "but I LET you do
anything
you want" ;-) 

real love is based on that stuff your beautiful wife was writing about!
Caring more for each
other and your kids than yourself...and I don't know that it has much to do
with the
'institution' of marriage but it is WONDERFUL when the two actually
coincide.