[MD] Head, heart & hands

[Ian]

No I don't think it' particularly British. If I was to generalize, I  
might say it was oriental - avoiding embarassing the people you deal  
with - I happen to think it's actually a human trait. And don't forget  
it's only an adage, not an axiom.

First reaction should be to tackle personal difficulties, personally.  
But, that's not a cover for opression or hegemony. Anyone having their  
"heart" ignored has a right to make their argument public, but that's  
not the same as saying all dirty washing should be aired in public.

I happen to see making private contact as a sign of effort -  
interpreting as Machiavellian or manipulative is in the eyes of a  
recipient with attitude, rather than the sender, 9 times out of 10.

Ian
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On 13 Sep 2010, at 12:01, MarshaV <valkyr at att.net> wrote:

>
> Hey Ian,
>
> Not meaning to offend, isn't your "Bad news in private, good news in  
> public" an English (My mother's side is English.) perspective.  If  
> you were from a southern European country, might your perspective be  
> different?  And I remember during the 1970s, there was a prominent  
> slogan within the Women's Movement that the personal was political.   
> Being of German/English heritage, I can suffer greatly for exposing  
> my feelings.
>
> Marsha
>
>
>
>
> On Sep 13, 2010, at 6:16 AM, Ian wrote:
>
>> Marsha, John, I hate to be the one defending dmb but offlist  
>> traffic is good, when the subject matter is personal, for anyone  
>> concerned with positive progress over damaging individuals.
>>
>> Bad news in private, good news in public is my own working adage,  
>> and offlist mail is not unusual for you either Marsha, which is the  
>> only reason you were mentioned ?
>>
>> DMB's style is dmb's style, on or offlist. Like his style or not,  
>> he's consistent.
>>
>> Ian
>>
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