[MD] new old book

[John Carl]

oh crap, sorry mary.  you already said that.

e-mail is trickier than real conversation.  Some social patterns perhaps
don't translate at all as they should...

On Mon, Apr 12, 2010 at 5:11 AM, Mary <marysonthego at gmail.com> wrote:

[Mary Replies]

> I was always in the Marsha camp on this, feeling very uncomfortable with
> compliments until one day it occurred to me that it's part of the social
> dance.  A compliment requires a gracious acceptance because if you fail to
> do that you are in effect questioning the judgment of the complimentor
> (sp?).  To accept a compliment is to give one in return.
>
> Best to all you lovely people! :)
> Mary



But really... is that really "best"?   Doesn't it keep people in this
trapped social bubble of constraint that prevents any real depth or real
connection because it maintains a defensive clinging to "proper" responses?


Wait.  I'm doin' it again.  I'm intellectualizing when I should just be
responding properly...

best to you too Mary  ;)

John